Sexual Appetite
Special interest Article
Anthony J. Iantosca, BCFE
IAFEI
Intensity requires intensity. When profilers talk about intensity, I am talking about (mental strength) not (physical strength) as I have explained above. Intensity is an intrinsic trait, each and every one of us was born with an intensity level. Combined with other traits that I have detected, identified, analyzed and evaulated will give me a profile on the personalities sex drive. Many times I receive calls from clients who ask me if they have a problem. Their partner has stated that they are sick and want sex all the time. Or the partner has stated that they are kinky and want to have sex in more colorful ways. I ask three questions, is your sex drive, wants needs and desires causing you stress? Is causing an impairment of social/work functioning? Is it illegal? If their answer is no , then there is nothing wrong with you. Each and everyone of us have wants / needs and desires, what may excite you, may not excite me and what may excite me, may not excite you.
Each and everyone of us have a preference. A form of selectivity. The main problem is the difference in the personalities intensity level (pressure/mental strength) A personality in the P-2,3 pressure range is not going to have the same drive, want, need and desire as a personality in the P-4,5,6 pressure range (intensity level). The more intense the personality is, the more intense/colorful their sexual appetite can and will be. A personality in the P-2,3,3 1/2 pressure range may be able to handle a personality in the P-4 pressure range but cannot relate to the personality in the P-5-6 pressure range. These personalities are intense in every aspect of their lives, they work hard, play hard and are intense sexually. Male or female it does not matter. Many times it is the woman who is a very intense personality, P-4,5,6 pressure range who is married or dating someone who is a lighter pressure the she is.
The male cannot relate to her drive. Many times the male ego comes into play and of course it must be her who has the problem. It is not me, I am normal. You are the crazy one. This is not the case at all. The woman is made to feel bad about herself, she is told she is over sexed, sick and has emotional problems.
To make matters even worse, if the partner who has been made to feel badly or has been made to feel like he/she has a problem seeks out a psychologist to speak with and the psychologist is in the P-2,3,3 1/2 pressure range trying to relate to a personality who is in the P-5,6 pressure range, forget it. That is never going to happen. You will walk out thinking you really have a problem.
Remember intensity requires intensity. Everyone returns back to their normal mode of behavior once the honeymoon phase of a new relationship is over. If you and your partner are not equal in intensity (mental strength) these differences in intensity will manifest themselves at a later time and there will be problems or misunderstandings within the relationship.
So before you start second guessing yourself or have been made to feel badly, call me. I will be able to clear up the confusion and misunderstanding.
